Built in Four Phases
Built in Four Phases
Each phase hands you the next, from the first yes to measured impact.
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Secure the room before it's scheduled.
Secure the room before it's scheduled.
Get the session approved, sponsored, and full before a single slide loads: a readiness review, a stakeholder approval map, a leader-ready brief, and a complete promotion package, all pre-written for you.
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Walk in ready, not just rehearsed.
Walk in ready, not just rehearsed.
Everything the facilitator needs to hold a room on a topic that can turn cynical: a preparation guide, a calm response library, clear guardrails, and a delivery-readiness check, ready before delivery day.
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The full session, written for you.
The full session, written for you.
The session written for you word for word, with a slide deck matched to it. Deliver the practice in 30, 60, or 90 minutes, virtual, in person, or hybrid, no design work required.
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Make it a practice, and prove it.
Make it a practice, and prove it.
Carry the practice into the weeks after the room clears, and prove it landed: a workbook, a manager guide, 30-day emails, an assessment, a tracker, a certificate, and an impact summary.
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The Difference Is the System
The Difference Is the System
Most culture training depends on the person at the front of the room. This depends on the system. The quality is built into the materials, so the session holds no matter who delivers it.
Build it once, it's yours.
Build it once, it's yours.
One purchase, every team you lead.
Run it with every team, every quarter, as many times as you want, with no per-use fee.
Run It In-House.
Run It In-House.
You run it. You don't build it.
The script, the slides, the prep, and the reinforcement are already built into the materials for you.
Honest influence, not manipulation.
Honest influence, not manipulation.
A hard line, defended throughout.
Every move is one you'd be fine having done to you, open and in service of the work.
FAQ's
FAQ's
What is The Unwritten Rules?
What is The Unwritten Rules?
It is a facilitation-ready power and influence Skill Builder that lets any internal leader lead a professional session in-house. It teaches a practice called Read the Room, Build Your Credibility, Make the Ask that moves work through people you cannot command, and it includes everything you need to run, reinforce, and measure the session across four phases.
How long is the session?
How long is the session?
You choose. The same kit runs as a 30-minute team session, a 60-minute workshop, or a 90-minute deep dive, virtual or in person. One master set covers all three lengths, with no deleting or reformatting to switch between them.
Isn't this just feedback or communication training again?
Isn't this just feedback or communication training again?
No. Feedback training mostly covers scheduled moments and runs downward. This covers the conversation you have been avoiding for six weeks, in any direction, including the ones that are not about performance at all: broken trust, unspoken tension, a way of working that is not working. And it covers what feedback models usually skip: what to do when the conversation goes sideways, and what happens after.
What is the Read the Room, Build Your Credibility, Make the Ask practice?
What is the Read the Room, Build Your Credibility, Make the Ask practice?
It is a structure for getting things done without authority. Read the Room means diagnosing who actually holds influence around a decision, beyond the org chart, before you move. Build Your Credibility means earning the standing that makes people want to help you, built in ordinary moments long before any ask. Make the Ask means framing the request in the other person's terms, sequencing it through the right people, and asking cleanly.
How much is it, and what do I get?
How much is it, and what do I get?
The Unwritten Rules is $1,499 on the Practitioner plan. You get all 17 assets across the four phases, and you can run the session with every team, every quarter, with no per-use fee. Build it once and it is yours.
Who is it for?
Who is it for?
For the squeezed middle and the people who bring development in-house: HR and People leaders, L&D partners, ERG and BRG leads, project and program leads, and team managers. It works for any group at any level, and it is written so an individual contributor and a senior leader can sit in the same room and both find it theirs, because everyone has an outcome they are responsible for that depends on people they cannot command.
Do I need training or facilitation experience to run it?
Do I need training or facilitation experience to run it?
No. The whole system is pre-built, so you deliver it by following it. The session is written word for word, the slides are done, and the preparation and reinforcement are included. Any internal leader with the credibility to run a room can deliver it, no instructional-design background required.
Is this DEI training?
Is this DEI training?
No. It is about an everyday behavior that shapes how any team works together: reading whether a recurring problem needs a known answer or a different approach, and bringing the right one. Inclusion is one thread of the broader work, not the headline. People who have done that work will recognize parts, and people who have not will recognize others.
Can I reuse it with different teams?
Can I reuse it with different teams?
Yes. Build it once and run it with every team after: a new department, a new cohort, a new quarter, the same system, as reading the moment spreads across the organization.